When you don’t commit to your dreams
Now, imagine the other side of the coin. Let’s meet John who isn’t used to show up for himself. John never speaks about his dreams to anyone because he gave them up many years ago.
He has become a successful manager leading a big team. From his rational perspective, he did everything correctly – he studied business, got married and had children, he was climbing the corporate ladder ever since he left the university.
He did everything just the way it is “supposed” to be done. Yet in his heart, he knows that he has never learned to show up for himself.
His dream was to become a musician – he used to have a band and play an electric guitar. However, his family had a strong opinion of musicians being broken and weird, and he has never dared to go against their expectations.
John shows up for his family, for his employees, for his career but never for his true desires.
Over the years, he has been smiling less often, and he has become stressed and resentful. When his son tells him that he would like to study at a vocational school, he gets furious and tells him that if he wants to have a nice life, he needs to study business or law.
If you don’t commit to your dreams, you’ll always feel like you’re wasting time and betraying yourself. You’ll do what you think that you should be doing but it’ll never satisfy you because it doesn’t come from within but it comes from others.
How to stay committed to your dreams
If you’re reading this article, the chances are that you haven’t been committing to your dreams too often. Just as we’ve been conditioned to live up to the expectations of others over the years, we need to begin to practice commitment to our dreams slowly.
You can start with the baby steps because they create a big difference over time.
- create a morning or evening routine for yourself
- take language course that you always wanted or start a new hobby
- say no to projects or people who drain you
- make small steps towards your dream every day if you have a bigger dream (starting a new business, opening a yoga studio) – even though it might be something small, if you continue then over the time it will create a big difference
- instead of spending every Friday out, you may work on your goals
Ask yourself what the best way that you can start now is. Remember, consistency is the key. Just as you wouldn’t break your word if it’d involve someone else, you shouldn’t do it to yourself either.
Choose one area of your life for now and show up for yourself day by day. You’ll shortly see that you approach other life areas more consistently too.
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