The Other Person Doesn’t Exist
So far, it sounds like a special love relationship is all you ever wanted. But the problem is that you don’t actually see the other person. You only see your illusions about them.
When under the spell of special love, you don’t see the true self of the other person. Your mind filters out any words, actions, and behaviors that are contradictory to what you believe about your partner. (Read more about this concept in my book Become the Ceo of Your Mind).
The ego wants to have that special love so much that it tries to fit the other person into its idea.
In the special love relationships, the problem isn’t with the other person, but with our attachment to our illusion.
When we raise the other person on a pedestal, we can’t reach them anymore. We’re not equal, and a healthy relationship can’t ever be based on inequality.
This creates a wall of separation between us and our idol, and they become unreachable. Besides, we also separate ourselves from everyone else. Because we assume that no one can understand our special love relationship.
This way, the ego is secretly weaving its web around you. You trade your inner power with the illusion that someone can be more special than others.
Everything you make special will be eventually taken from you.
Nothing special has a chance to survive because it violates the principle of oneness. Yes, everyone is unique, but no one is more special than others.
When we think that the other person is special, we also allow them to treat us badly. Because we can’t afford to lose the one and only. So, we tolerate their empty promises and inconsistent actions. We excuse the abusive behavior because one day it will be perfect.
When in truth, the ego keeps us chasing something that doesn’t exist.
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