Through my work, I’ve met many people who either believe they’ve met their twin flames or they’re on a quest to meet them. It seems like a new spiritual thing to experience. People believe that once they meet their twin flames, their life will truly take off, and they’ll become their best selves. Finally.
What No One Tells You About Twin Flames
What people don’t say out loud is that after meeting your twin flame, you feel unconsciously superior to others. You feel overpowered by the grandiose mission you have here together, and you think that other people who haven’t met their twin flames won’t understand you. Your ego whispers to you that you’re special in some way.
People also don’t tell you that although they experience feelings unlike anything before, they keep chasing the carrot at the end of the stick. They believe that they have to become perfect to unite with their twin flame at once. To some extent, they become slaves to their egos, trying to justify why something happened, and something did not.
They can tell you, “Oh, I’m above that. I can wait. I understand it.” And yet, years later, they still are waiting for their twin flame to come. With twin flames, I’ve been on both sides of the fence. I experienced it years before I heard the label “twin flame.” I’ve seen people waiting for their twins for even decades with the same hope while sacrificing finding happiness with someone else or having children.
Also, I’ve walked the whole cycle, where not many people dare to go, which has brought me an immense sense of liberation one can experience. It’s almost impossible to put it into the words, but I’ll do my best. The liberation I’ve experienced, and because of it, I can actually live in my highest potential came the moment I set myself free from all things twin flame related.
When you liberate your soul and Spirit from the chains that have been haunting you for eons of years, incredible strength and power arise within your being. Now you can direct your energy in the best possible way, and you’re not bound by others, illusions, your fears, or expectations. You can even liberate yourself from your purpose altogether. This is the time you TRULY meet yourself. And you know that you don’t need your twin flame to live your purpose, feel joyful and free.
These are one of the things that are better to be experienced than described. But for those of you who have met their twin flames, here is what you need to know.
What Are Twin Flames?
The ancient Greek philosopher Plato described the concept of twin flames in his play Symposium. Plato wrote that the human was split apart into two halves, one representing the masculine and one the feminine essence, and since then, these two halves are searching for each other. The so-called twin flames represent the love that is liberated of all conditions.
Everyone has their twin, but not everyone will meet them. However, if you do meet your twin, then your life is never the same. The moment your eyes first meet, you can feel that life as you knew it ceases to exist. This one person who you just met touches the unknown depths of your soul and heart.
Not many people meet their twin flame.
There is a lot of confusion around the concept of twin flames as it has become popular lately. Many people assume that they met their twin because they fell in love with their soulmate, and the soulmate relationship may be far from anything they had known.
I like to think about the soulmate relationship as a reward. Living with your soulmate is natural and easy. You two are on the same page, and when issues come up, you move through them quickly and without much extra pain.
The twin flame relationship is everything but romance. It pushes you to grow beyond your imagination. It’s like winning a golden ticket to fast-track evolution without being offered much time to catch the breath.
You enhance each other’s evolution and trigger the deepest wounds that you didn’t know existed. After the initial phase of bliss, you go apart to work on the inner healing because it all surfaces in your life at once.
You’ll feel that you’re losing your mind sometimes. Your heart is bursting with unconditional love for your twin, and there has never been anything that you ever wanted more than to be with them. Yet, at the same time, you instinctively feel that you can’t be together, and this triggers the most intense pain you’ve ever felt.
Then you’ll come together for a short period of time only to say goodbye to each other again. The dynamic is like a dance of fire when you feel attracted to each other’s light, and then your ego fears that it would get burned, so you run away.
As you may see, meeting your twin flame isn’t the easiest path to walk. There is no guarantee that you’ll ever be together in a typical relationship. Moreover, this isn’t what the twin flame connection is about. It’s only the mind that tries to label something that is beyond understanding.
You may dance together for long years or decades without ever staying in each other’s presence for too long. The distance and time don’t change anything on the magnitude of your connection. On the contrary, as you become more energetically aligned with each other, you may feel an even stronger bond with your twin.
What Is the Purpose of the Twin Flame Relationship?
If you’re 100% sure that you’ve met your twin (and not a soulmate), then read ahead. The primary goal of the twin flame relationship is to experience a liberated love.
The liberated love is the love that goes far beyond any concepts, labels, and ideas of how a relationship should be. It surpasses any form and loves without conditions.
Your twin will unconsciously trigger all kinds of fears and insecurities related to your worth, inner light, the meaning of your life, and love. They’ll do it over and over again until you understand what unconditional love means. Please note that they don’t want to hurt you; they can only trigger the unconscious stuff that is already within you.
As long as you seek a specific form of relationship between you, it’s not unconditional love.
The unconditional love means that they can send you 100 times away, cause you pain, give you empty promises, but your heart doesn’t shut down. None of it impacts the way you feel. When you open up your heart to this level (and anyone can), you make your heart and self independent of others.
Keeping your heart wide open has nothing to do with naivety; it’s mastery.
It’s a combination of being present enough to recognize the flaws of human forms of others and our own. Yet being able to see far beyond that. You can realize that your twin is far from perfect. You’re not blind to their shortcomings, and perhaps you think that your relationship would never work because of that. Yet simultaneously, your feeling to them stays unaffected by anything they do.
The unconditional love isn’t blind to the state of the world or the flaws of others. But it’s far-seeing and can see the essence of others that is forever untouched.
Thus your twin will train you to drop any expectations and subconscious manipulation to get what you want – a romantic relationship with them. There also comes the time when you’ll face the toughest decision of all – will I continue waiting for them? Or will I move ahead alone while continuing to love them?
The unconditional love that you may feel here and there will strengthen if you allow it. It’ll encompass others (not just your twin), nature, animals, the whole planet, and here it comes – the unconditional love will include YOU as well.
What Will You Choose?
Therefore there may come the choice between waiting for them or choosing yourself and creating a life without them. At this point, people can make a mistake easily that when they move ahead, they assume they have it under control, and the process is over. Well, it’s not.
The key point here is to keep your heart open because if you shut it down, you’ll feel lifeless.
When you try to shut down your feelings to your twin (which you can only succeed for a little while and with much effort), you also cut yourself off the unconditional love. That’s why it never feels good.
From a higher perspective, moving ahead might be the thing that helps you to drop the expectations. But don’t ever think that it impacts the connection that you two have. Your bond and love rewrite the story of what love means.
It’s not the classical, romantic love that wants to possess the other person subconsciously. It’s the liberated, free love when you don’t place any conditions on the other person even if it hurts you because you realize that the pain comes from the ego, not from pure love.
There are no attachments, neediness, possessiveness, control, or manipulation. Your heart will be purging until you reach the point that you stop caring if you end up with your twin.
You gift them and yourself with freedom, yet not allowing anything to shut your heart down and never doubt the love between you two. This is the true power and love.
Previously published by Thought Catalog at https://thoughtcatalog.com.
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