5 Tips to access your powerful presence
1. Why do you seek relief?
When you want to step into the power of your presence, the first thing is to recognize the reason why you find relief.
Let’s take a typical example; you have a deadline to meet. Maybe you should work on a project at work, or you have to prepare a birthday party for your child, or someone expects your help. You need to do something, and you procrastinate.
Instead of focusing on the task ahead, you scroll social media, send a text message to your friend, or you go to eat. Your mind tells you that you’ll only take a five-minute break and then you finally start. Those things that you do instead of working on what you should make you feel better for a while before the guilt creeps in. You’re NOT lazy, and nothing is wrong with you, but there is an underlying reason for you to seek relief.
The chances are that if you find out what you’re not willing to face, you discover some belief or fear that brings you pain.
So, next time, when you procrastinate and slip from your powerful presence, ask yourself this question:
What discomfort am I trying to escape from?
2. Coping mechanism
When you aren’t in the power of your presence, your mind goes on autopilot. The pilot – your consciousness – is taking a break now. However, the subconscious mind can only drive you back to where you came from. So then when you wake up, you realize that you’re further away from your goals.
Everything that you do on autopilot while you should be present is your coping mechanism against facing reality.
Write a list of your most common coping mechanisms, so next time, you’re aware when you choose them. It doesn’t have to be only the obvious like scrolling social media, but it can also be that you get caught up in telling yourself excuses. The moment you write them down, you bring your consciousness into those behaviors, and with practice, you can eliminate them.
3. Don’t EVER complain
Complaining is one of the biggest ways that can steal you of the power of your presence. This behavior is seemingly innocent and widely tolerated, but it takes your energy.
Each time you complain, you allow yourself to have excuses, and you push away that which you want to manifest. Your energy becomes repelling.
When you are honest with yourself, you realize that when you complain, you don’t want to fix anything. Complaining about problems doesn’t bring you any closer to your goals. When you complain, you give away your power. Of course, don’t confuse it by acknowledging how you feel. But the pure act of complaining makes you powerless because it strengthens the inner victim.
4. What if you COULD handle this?
Another tip for staying in the power of your presence is to choose to handle it. Whatever is in front of you, decide to either do it or not, but don’t let it half-open. If you face inner conflict about some situation, make a choice. The worst is to stand in between and not choose anything.
When you keep more doors open, your energy flees to all the possibilities, and you’re off your powerful presence.
Every problem has a solution. You won’t experience something if there isn’t a hidden gem for you. It’s really about a decision to become the person who can handle everything that comes.
5. Give your mind a toy
My last tip is to give your mind a toy so you can stay rooted in the power of your presence. When the mind doesn’t have any aim, it finds something to play with anyway. Then the mind looks for distractions, and it loves to create problems to solve. It also makes problems seem bigger than they are. So what you want to do is to choose the toy for your mind.
Direct your attention to something that you desire and challenge your mind to find the best solutions.
For instance, create a plan of where you want to be at the end of summer or this year. It can be anything from writing a business plan, work-out plan, or strengthening your relationships.
Write everything down and experience the amazing feeling after you achieve it. Spend a while to accept that plan; check it whether it resonates with you, and you genuinely want it. Then commit to it. You may put the plan on a fridge and sign. When you tell your mind where it should direct attention, you’re more likely to remain in the power of your presence.
To stay in your powerful presence, first, understand what discomfort you want to escape and what your coping mechanisms are. Create a plan that your mind likes, and thus it’s less likely to shower you with distractions. The rest is about mindfulness and noticing when you go into the victim mentality and choose to stop it. Everything is a choice.
Step into your powerful presence and create space for your soul to reach out to you.