4 Ideas on Energetic Self-Care
I’ll share with you some ideas on how to nurture yourself. But if you’re an empath, I want you to know that taking care of yourself energetically goes much deeper.
During the coaching, I help empaths to learn how to take care of their energies. And in every case, we must do a lot of inner healing so that it’s then easier not to take in unwanted energy. The following tips aren’t a substitute for inner healing work.
Honestly, self-care is not fluffy – it’s something we should take seriously.
– Kriss Car
1. Energy Audit
First of all, become aware of the places where you lose your energy. Those are the black holes in your life. You give and give, but you don’t seem to receive much in return.
Who is draining your energies?
Which activities and behaviors are draining to you?
Think also about the activities that light you up. While doing them, you feel more energized. What is nurturing your energies?
Having clarity in what nurtures you and what doesn’t, can serve as a roadmap to what to prioritize. The logic is simple; do more what lights you up and try to avoid those draining activities.
2. Draining relationships
Part of energetic self-care is also recognizing which relationships are draining you. You may have some family members or close friends who always need your help and attention.
Even if you always solve their problems over again and do anything in your power to make them feel better, it’s never enough. A day after, they need more from you. Those people may be energetic vampires, or you may have some shared karma.
How could you be less available to those people?
I know that this is a sensitive topic. Some of the most abusive relationships may be in the family, and it may feel out of your power to change them. Sometimes, you see someone you love to struggle with, and you feel responsible for their pain.
But also the pain is a part of someone’s journey. We always learn.
When you try to heal someone who is not ready, you get entangled in their karma.
3. Become less available
To restore your energies and nurture yourself, eliminate everything that is draining you. Of course, at some point in the inner healing, things will stop consuming you. But that would be beyond the scope of an article.
Look at your life as an observer and see how you react when someone wants help, you receive a message, or someone is distracting you from your work.
Are you the person who drops everything and runs to help others?
Do you let others dictate the way you spend your time?
What if you would embrace a self-parenting approach to yourself instead?
It’s you who decides how available to others you are. You don’t need always to help your friends. You can say no when you don’t feel right about something. Neither, you need to reply to messages or check social media immediately. Set your own rules.
Choose what works for you.
4. Say yes to yourself
Another pillar of energetic self-care is to say yes to yourself. This means that you relax when you’re tired. Or you teach others to be less dependent on your advice or help.
Saying yes to yourself also means that you follow the choices that light you up.
When you say yes to yourself, you stand in your power. From that space, your energies return to balance naturally. You’ll see that others instinctively respect your energy more.
Remember that each time, you say yes when you don’t want, it also means no to something even better.
We’re not on this planet forever, thus be more aware if your yes creates more space and opportunities or it brings chaos and restriction.