During the last couple of years, I’ve learned a lot about how to find balance in life. Balance and harmony come hand in hand, and they are the key components to contentment and happiness.
Moreover, when we create inner balance, then we can step into our potential more powerfully.
The Law of Cause and Effect
Before we dive into how to find balance in life, I’d like to touch a different perspective on balance. The inner balance works the same way as the outer balance does. We can learn a lot from observing the universal laws of creation.
One of the laws is the principle of action and reaction. The third Newton’s law states that the force one object imposes on another object is equal in magnitude and has an opposite direction than the force applied by the first object.
Practically, this means that the universe always balances one’s actions by creating the opposing force. The universe tends to find neutrality and equilibrium. Thus it doesn’t judge our actions and doesn’t try to punish us by bringing hardship into our lives.
The universe is balancing our thoughts, actions, and decisions by an opposing force of the same magnitude.
There is nothing personal in the application of this law. The law of action and reaction is sometimes called the Law of Cause and Effect in the spiritual language, and it’s the same as karma. Karma, too, is neutral.
Each of our actions carries a specific frequency and magnitude of energy. Whenever we act, we create an excess of energy that needs to be balanced out so that the neutrality is maintained. Of course, we act continuously, and every decision contributes to the common energy field that shapes our reality.
This means that not every wrong action is immediately balanced because perhaps we have gathered enough positive merit, which protects us from experiencing an immediate negative impact. However, the pool of our positive merit decreases by the amount of what needed to balance out the wrong action.
This is the reason why many philosophies focus on collecting positive merit and being always kind to others.
The Law of Cause and Effect, or karma, is an impersonal principle that keeps the universe always balanced and neutral.
How to Find Balance in Life
You can apply the law to create balance and harmony in your life. From my experience, we can train ourselves to tell whether we’re moving away from the inner balance.
A common example of how we can get out of balance:
You wake up in the morning a bit later than usual, and consequently, you come later to the office and have to work harder to catch up on an important project. As you need to concentrate a lot and don’t have time for breaks during the day, you mentally exhaust yourself. You come home later, and because you can’t switch off your thoughts from pondering about the project, you’re irritated toward your wife and children.
At this point, nothing seems to take you out of your thoughts, so you turn on the TV and watch brainless TV shows. You go to sleep late and drained and have interrupted sleep throughout the night, and the same pattern repeats the next day. If the same pattern continues for a couple of days, it may impact your health or relationships.
If you were attentive to the example, you could see how one small act of imbalance led to another. The first small imbalance occurs when you wake up late. At that point, you have two options; to allow it to take you off balance even further or regain the balance.
Whenever we’re reactive, we upset the equilibrium.
In this example, it seems logical to hurry to work and do an extra job. But because we may feel guilty for coming late, we don’t take enough breaks, so we deplete our mental energy. Energetically speaking, when we get mentally tired, it distorts other life areas because we operate with an energy shortage.
The distortion may look like in this example when you feel irritated toward your spouse, although it has nothing to do with them, and you choose to watch TV, which is even more depleting. Thus you wake up the next day with the same miserable mood as you went to sleep with.
If you’d be more mindful, you’d take more breaks and didn’t work overtime. Or you could come home and go to meditate before speaking with your spouse, so you’d regain some of the energy you lack.
Training ourselves to be mindful of the ways how we lose the balance helps us to smooth out the ups and downs.
In this simplified case, if you’d wonder why your relationship starts to feel off-balance, then the answer is because you had pushed yourself to the limits. Thus you unconsciously put in motion a force of the same magnitude – arguing with your spouse.
Have you ever noticed that when you’re busy that more problems require your immediate attention?
Or more people ask you for help?
The reason is that you upset the equilibrium by living in contradiction to your natural flow.
A Little Tip on How to Find Balance in Life
As you may see, one of the things that upset the balance is when we’re reactive to situations. Rarely, reactiveness brings any positive fruits. On the contrary, we let ourselves get swept away by the occurring issues and add more turbulent energy to it.
It may sound counterintuitive, but often the best response for being late or off the daily to-do list is to slow down and take a break. This creates a space that interrupts the reactive behavioral pattern.
Another area to focus on is to attune yourself to your inner balance. It’s a matter of mindfulness and recognizing the thoughts or behaviors that don’t serve us and then stop them at the beginning.
I believe that how to find balance in life is a matter of self-mastery. It requires time and effort because we train ourselves to see the reactive patterns and become aware of how we manage our energy.
In a way, it doesn’t matter how many things you do, as long as it doesn’t upset your inner balance. I don’t believe that there is one approach fits all. Some people feel better when the pace of their lives is faster, while others would feel stressed and burned out. You need to learn to honor what kind of lifestyle suits you.
Below you can download a free guidebook with questions that will help you find your rhythm. After all, creating a balanced life is about mindfulness, understanding how to apply the universal law, and creating the lifestyle that works for us and doesn’t take us off balance.