3 Examples of self-sabotaging behavior
When you live in your comfort zone, you experience life through the fence you’ve built around yourself, rather than going and experiencing life fully.
1. You tell yourself that you’re fine (even if you’re not)
Being in touch with your emotions is crucial. When you’re honest about what you feel, you connect with the driving force behind your life.
Our most profound desires are like a fire that keeps us growing and expanding. When you admit to yourself your core desires, you stop living your life through others and instead step powerfully into the best version of yourself.
All of a sudden, you don’t need approval, and you don’t waste your time overthinking and doubting your next move. You do it because the power that moves the universe is burning firmly in your heart.
When you suppress your emotions, you also stuck the life force in your life.
The energy stops flowing freely in your life, and thus it finds other ways to express itself. This can take various forms – a disease, argument, or not grasp a great opportunity because you just don’t feel good.
So when you don’t feel good, get in touch with what the cause of your distress is. Or otherwise, it comes back to you in another form that you might not like at all.
2. You get easily distracted
Anything or anyone catches your attention. You might even go after too many ideas at once (I used to do this for most of my life).
You’re not in control of your days, but you don’t change it – this is a common self-sabotaging behavior.
On the surface, you might think that you’re the kind of person who needs constant change and different inputs. This is true; we all require change and growth, but not in a chaotic way that makes us walk in circles.
The underlying cause of this kind of self-sabotaging behavior is that you want to save yourself the disappointment in the case something wouldn’t work out (again) the way you want.
So you subconsciously spend your energy without thinking. Thus lacking it to make a break-through and create the results you wish to see.
It’s of the highest value to learn how to manage your energy well because the energy is your most valuable currency.
3. You don’t know what you want
As I said earlier, knowing what you want is step number one to creating the life you desire. During my life coaching, I’ve met many people who told me that they didn’t know what they truly wanted. In fact, this is more common that one would think.
If this is your case, I highly recommend you get in touch with your desires and dreams and make it your priority until you become clear of what these are.
The most common reason why people don’t know what they desire is that they’re subconsciously afraid that recognizing it would mean they’d have to change their life (and people in it).
In most cases, we disassociate ourselves from our desires because we fear that someone wouldn’t like what we’ve discovered in our hearts. This is often true. It’s usually our closest people who have difficulties with our new-found desires, but is it better living a less fulfilling life to make someone happy?
It’s again about the fear of others not accepting us as we are. So we, instead, convince ourselves that we actually want to have the 9-to-5 job for the rest of our lives, and that’s okay to travel once children are older or that taking care of your body can wait because now you’re too busy drinking coffee to keep yourself going.
It sounds harsh, but persuading yourself that it’s better to keep the status quo is the easier path of how to live. It’s the fear of life itself.