Every single person experiences psychological projections. Projections are an inherent coping mechanism of our ego. Thus not everything that we see in the outer world is true, in fact, most of the things are not. When you think of your parents, for example, you sometimes wonder how they can be so narrow-minded. You may be the kind of person who sees opportunities everywhere while they don’t.
Although it’s easy to see how others block their ways to happiness, love, or success, it might not be so evident when it’s about us.
When it comes to manifesting our reality, there are two essential ways how we do it.
- Expand our true essence into our environment, and as a result, the right things gravitate to us.
- Or we use psychological projections to design our reality.
What is a psychological projection?
To simplify it, the psychological projections are beliefs about ourselves that we project onto others.
Naturally, we project our relationship with ourselves onto the world around us. This happens mostly unconsciously, and it limits our capabilities to create what we truly desire (e.g., a fulfilling career or relationship).
Why do we project our beliefs on others?
We project our beliefs on others because we don’t want to recognize certain aspects of ourselves. It might be the characteristics that we rather wouldn’t have had. Or it can be our strengths that we don’t feel worthy of having and thus we don’t act on them.
All relationships and outer world ultimately serve us to heal wounded aspects of ourselves. Frankly, the ideas we hold about ourselves aren’t always pleasant. Most of the times our beliefs are far from the truth, and they create thought patterns which define what we think is possible for us.
These wounded aspects of ourselves take various forms. They originate in unprocessed and unhealed negative emotions. Each time when we get hurt, a part of us gets “energetically stuck” in our emotional body until we release it.
Another form of dysfunctional thought patterns are conclusions such as, “I’m not good enough, bad things always happen to me, or it will never work out.” These thoughts can be deeply seeded within our mind, and it takes work and time to release them.
Stray parts of our soul would be another example of why we use psychological projections to create our reality. (That would be another topic).
Nevertheless, we have a lot of beliefs that we need to process and return them to love. But because we’re too identified with the perception of us, we can’t recognize these patterns within the self, and thus we project them on others.
The purpose of projecting them outside of us is to acknowledge them and healing them – but this is something that not everyone chooses to do. Some people stay in self-denial for the rest of their lives.
To give you more specific ideas of psychological projections, I share with you 5 common examples.
Examples of psychological projections
1. Envying and underestimating
Envying and under (or over) estimating someone is basically the same thing. In both cases, you don’t see people for who they’re.
Either you raise them above you – envy – or you place their worth below yours – underestimating.
When you envy someone their success, lifestyle, or looks not just that you focus on superficial things while ignoring the hard work behind the scenes, but you also secretly want the same for yourself.
But because you don’t own your desires and don’t give yourself a green light to go after them, instead you envy others who live what you want.
On the other hand, when you underestimate someone by saying “It’s just Tim, he is useless,” (I apologize to any Tim reading this, it’s not personal), you just verbalize out loud your own insecurities. By psychologically projecting your own insecurity on Tim, you judge him.
Behind blame is an unconscious belief of guilt. Perhaps, you’ve done something that you haven’t forgiven yourself (yet), and thus you project your hidden burden on others.
Sometimes, it’s easier to blame someone else than finding peace with our past. But, remember that whenever you blame someone not just that you miss the opportunity to heal your wounds, but you also put yourself in a self-imposed prison.
Other people mirror us what we think about ourselves.
Judgment is similar to blame. When you judge someone, you must believe the same things to be true about you as well.
Otherwise, you wouldn’t have noticed them!
If you’re happy with your body, you don’t judge and think of bodies of other people. These thoughts simply don’t enter your mind. And if they do, you may have picked up the judgments of the other person that they have of themselves. (Picking up other’s opinions about themselves is something that empaths do.)
A little experiment:
Write down 5 judgments you have about your family or friends. After you write them down reread them and think whether you actually believe the same things to be true about you. If you’re honest, you’ll find out that you hold the same beliefs about yourself but you don’t want to admit it, thus you project them onto others.
4. Lack of trust
Another example of psychological projections is a lack of trust in someone or something. Let’s assume that you don’t trust your partner fully, but at the same time, you know that there is no reason for that.
The lack of trust is a sign that you don’t trust yourself completely.
Perhaps, you let yourself down when you needed your support the most. Or you often sabotage yourself and don’t choose what you’d wanted to.
5. Someone special
The last example of psychological projection is when you make someone special in your mind. It may be a romantic crush, friend, family member, or even a public person.
When you catch yourself thinking that whatever they do is the best (and of course, much better than what you do) or that you need someone specific to complete you, you’ve just entered the territory of specialness.
In this case, you project your longing to become this kind of person on the other person. Making other special is one of the favorite tricks of the ego. When you put them on a pedestal, you create a separation between you two and your mind will offer you all kind of illusionary thoughts. Thus the ego keeps you slave to its belief systems and doesn’t allow you to step into your power.
Do you want to learn more about projections?
If you want to learn more about how we create reality through projections. And how the mind’s illusions and fears work and how to change them – you may read more in my book Become the CEO of Your Mind.