How do energy vampires drain you?
I want to give you a little background about how this dynamics work. In our bodies, we have energy centers called chakras (you can read about them in these 2 articles here and here).
If chakras are balanced, we have balanced energy, we feel good, and we’re healthy. If one of them doesn’t function properly, then we feel the imbalance almost immediately.
If you say things like; today isn’t my day, or I feel burdened, then if I’d be you, I’d check chakras first. We feel the energy all the time, but the funny thing is that it’s so simple that we think that what we feel is stupid or we’ve made it up. In reality, our feelings inform us very well about our energies.
The energy vampires steal our energy mostly from the first three chakras. Your second chakra located below your navel connects you with everyone in your life. It creates an energy tunnel between you and the person. When you interact with someone and also think of someone, there is an energy exchange between you two through this tunnel.
Ideally, it’s more or less balanced exchange of energy. Your friends help you and uplift you, and then you also support them when they need it. However, when it’s more like the one-way stream (one of you is mostly giving), then you’re very likely just losing your energy.
Guess how many people can you energetically feed before burning out or feeling thoroughly exhausted?
Energy vampires in relationships
This is the reason why it’s better to have few real friends than hundreds of not so good friends who only take or gossip about you behind your back. Gossiping and envy are natural in our times with perfect social accounts. Also, your virtual friends can steal energy from you if they’re secretly jealous of you or envious.
If you’ve ever been in a disharmonious relationship, you’ve probably felt unhappy, heavy, or perhaps like being caught in a cage. If there is manipulative or controlling energy or if one partner gives more than the other, the relationships cannot last long.
At least it cannot be a happy relationship for a long time. One of the partners is literally sucking the energy of another which makes the other person lose self-confidence (3rd chakra) and makes them feel like it’s difficult to change the situation. They feel trapped because they’re leaking the energy which they need to change their condition.
Energy vampires steal our energy from our chakras. The first chakra corresponds with social norms (you should study this and become this), the second chakra is all about money, work, sexual energies, and personal relationships, and the third chakra which is responsible for our self-confidence and our boundaries (inability to say no also leads to energy leakage).
You leak your energy when you have a negative emotional reaction to something.
How to protect yourself from energy vampires?
There is a lot of information about energy protection. I would like to share with you what I do and hope it can serve you.
1. Learn to say no
When you say no to someone (and you mean it), you stop the energy flow between you two. Your energy always obeys your command.
Think about the moment when you were proud of yourself for saying no to someone. Did you feel more empowered? The reason is that you stopped donating energy to them and instead stopped the flow. Having clear boundaries is essential for creating a balanced life. When you say yes, and you know that you shouldn’t have, you betray yourself.
2. Become aware of your energies
The reason why I’ve written so long article is that I want you to become more aware of your energies. The moment when you know that someone is stealing your energy, you can change it. They cannot do it against your free will, but it’s also true that they might have a stronger will so it can take a bit more effort to stop the flow. Yet it all begins with awareness.
3. Your energy stays with you
When you feel that you’re leaking your energy, you can put your hands on one of the chakras (usually the 3rd chakra, above your belly button) and simply say in your mind that your energy stays with you. This will give the energy a clear intention to stay with you instead of leaking through the energy tunnel to the other person.
4. Love is the strongest energy
Just like in fairy tales, love always wins. If you manage to feel love and get yourself into this highest vibrating energy, then no one can affect you. I know that it’s difficult to stay there all the time, but you can also feel love for some period when you’re consciously dealing with the energy vampire. They don’t want your love so they’ll fall away.
5. Cord cutting
You can consciously cut off the energy tunnels – ties – connecting you and the other person. Imagine them right in front of you and envision the cord connecting you. Trust your inner guidance – whichever shape or form it comes to you is the best. And then imagine a big sword (or ax) and cut the cord. Sometimes you may have to repeat this exercise.
I hope this article helped you to understand the fundamental energy dynamics. One thing that I wish you take away from this article is that you’re not weird if you feel like someone is stealing your energy – someone probably is doing just that. Listening more to our inner guidance can help us make smarter and healthier choices in life.