Stop saving others to save yourself
1. Don’t fix people who aren’t ready for it
Stop saving others, especially people who aren’t ready for it and who might not have even asked for it. This is a harsh lesson that I learned a couple of years ago, resulting in what I do now. I stopped saving others, and thus I created more capacity for changing my life.
We can never fix or help anyone who is not ready for it. If someone doesn’t ask you specifically for help, you can waste as much energy on them as you wish, but there will be no results.
Each of us has a different life trajectory and lessons to be learned. There is no way how you can force change on someone who isn’t ready for it.
2. Save yourself instead
If you try to fix others secretly, redirect the energy back to yourself. Don’t be a shadow creator. Do the things you want for yourself first.
In this way, you’ll become a deeply fulfilled person who can then effortlessly help others. There is a big difference between trying to fix someone and being whole and sharing your greatness with others.
It’s your light that heals. Not your efforts. True healing, indeed, feels effortless.
3. Get rid of guilt
Stop saving others from a place of obligation and guilt. There is no need to feel guilty if you can’t help someone. They’re not ready. Each of us has a unique path to learning and growth.
There is no way how we can objectively assess whether someone is doing wrong or not. Maybe they still need some lessons before they can finally change. Our human perspective is too limited to see the bigger picture.
Therefore, you don’t need to feel guilty. The feeling of guilt is one of the tricks of the fear-based mind, which wants to keep us safe by controlling our perception of the world.