2. What is the real cause?
What is the real reason for your self-sabotage? You may be afraid to accomplish something because of the fear of being rejected and not recognized.
Mostly, we don’t try something because we allow our mind to put a limit on our capabilities. We listen to this little voice in our head which tells us that we aren’t good enough and that we always fail.
By believing it, we make it real. We create our reality by supporting these limiting beliefs. Thus we stay stuck in the dysfunctional patterns.
3. Get angry
Yes, you’re reading well. Anger helps to release some suppressed emotions. Anger is the breakthrough point in which we become potent enough to shift some situation energetically.
You need to get to the state of anger about your current situation. Let’s say that you always sabotage yourself in relationships, and finally, you get tired of it.
Lastly, there comes the moment when you recognize that you also deserve to be happy. This is your turning point.
Use the upset as fuel to change the status-quo. Decide to improve your situation and your mindset. No one ever said that you could not change what you don’t like it.
4. Become your best friend
The way out of self-sabotage is to be on your side. Especially, when this behavior creeps in. If you recognize why and where you sabotage yourself and you also have the inner fire to change it, then you must coach yourself when you’re about to sabotage again.
Situation by situation.
Stop before doing anything and think about the consequences that the sabotaging behavior will bring you. Step by step condition your mind to different supportive behavior.