Why do people push your buttons?
I want to help you understand why some people easily push your buttons and what the lesson for you is. Read the below questions and write any answers that come to you. These answers will help you understand your lessons and also ease up the relationship with them.
Now, think about the specific things that you mind about people who push your buttons.
Which behaviors do drive you crazy?
What do others do when they unleash your negative side?
What kind of sentences are you allergic to?
Specify what exactly drives you crazy the most and what you’re afraid of the most. Once you’re done, turn your awareness from them TO YOU. Think about all these negative things that you think of them and ask yourself, why is it so?
What we mind about others is what we don’t accept about ourselves.
Ask yourself a question: Would you still mind that person’s behavior if you would know that you don’t have the same qualities?
I have realized that what we are fear is that we end up having the same negative qualities as they do. Or we subconsciously worry that, deep within, we’re like the people who push our buttons. Otherwise, you wouldn’t have noticed these negative traits in someone else.
We can only see the same pitfall that we already have. Yes, I know this can be harsh but understanding how to work with your shadow empowers you.
Let’s say that you have hard times with your mom, who controls and manipulates you.
Then ask yourself: Am I subconsciously afraid that I would become the same?
If you would know with certainty that you are a free-spirited woman (or man) who never tries to control or manipulate others, would the behavior of your mom still drive you crazy?
I know that this is not what you want to hear. I know that it would be better to say that she is a little evil creature 🙂 And maybe that’s the case…but… don’t miss the lesson that she is here to teach you.When someone pushes our buttons, we mind it because there is something we need to face and heal in ourselves.
So I invite you to look at your shadow and own every single bit of it!
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