Some of the common patterns
1. Arriving always late
For some people (I used to be one of them), it seems almost impossible to get somewhere on time. It doesn’t matter if they have a free afternoon with only one thing scheduled. They always make sure to arrive late.
The reasons are different in each case, yet one thing they have in common is that they believe it’s not their fault for being late. This, too, is an unconscious way of self-sabotage.
2. There are no good men (women) out there
Some people justify why they haven’t met Mr. Right by saying that all the good men or women are already in a relationship. Therefore, they must take what is left, so to speak.
This is also why they settle down with the wrong man because they feel it’s too late, and they want to have a family. Yet the way we see potential partners is influenced by what we were trained to believe about them.
The truth is that they’re both good and not-so-suitable partners. But when we allow the pattern to run our decisions, we put a veil over our perception. And thus become selectively blind to those who are perfect for us.
3. I don’t have time
This is a widespread pattern. Yes, I consider it to be a pattern because people who complain the most about the lack of time are the ones who get up later, they spend time on social media, watching TV, or they spend time gossiping about others and complaining about their schedule. This, like any other self-sabotaging behavior, is a pattern too.
4. The “I can’t make it” pattern
The lack of healthy self-trust is the most common reason why people don’t change something in their lives. Perhaps, they’ve heard way too often that they aren’t good enough, smart enough, or that they have to become realistic and be like others.
Although I don’t know you, I know one important thing about you; you can make anything you dream of happening.
It’s within your power because, just like a lioness is fighting for her lion cub, I know that you can fight for your own life and dreams if you believe that you can. All it takes is a bit more hope and trust combined with an aligned action, and then miracles happen. You come closer to living your life purpose.
4. The ‘’I have to be better, slimmer, more interesting” pattern
Some of you might have been judged and rejected so many times that you gave up on yourself. Comparing ourselves to others has become so familiar that we all forget to share from our hearts and be honest about who we are, what we fear, and what we hope for. By trying to be better, or even perfect, we disown our unique essence and trade it for what we think is worth pursuing. But it is not.
At first glance, it may seem that we have some behavioral patterns and that we’ve been born this way. But this is very far from the truth. As long as we feel that we’re victims of circumstances or that something isn’t within our power to change it, we allow the patterns to govern our lives.
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