Do you feel responsible for other people’s feelings?
1. You’re a loving being
I repeat this often at my workshops; under all that dirt and fear is love.
We want to help other because we genuinely care. That is a good thing, but it’s better to direct your help at people who WANT to be helped.
You can use your good intentions and loving heart for people who are ready for it. Not everyone is ready to receive love.
In reality, this seems to be as one of the most challenging things on this planet. People are at different stages and levels of consciousness, so you can choose to do the good for people who are waiting for it.
If you waste all your energy on people, who value pain more than you can’t help where it makes difference.
Since you’re reading these words, it’s very likely that you’re an empath (a highly sensitive individual).
2. Don’t get involved in people’s dramas
When we’re pulled into the lives of others, we can easily lose the sight of our own lives. To put it very simply, if you think and talk about other people’s lives, then you call into your life THEIR energy. This is the same energy that has created the drama in their lives in the first place.
So guess what does it do with you? Yes, it creates the same drama in your life.
Have you ever noticed that when you were too much involved in a life of someone else that you began to experience similar problems?
This doesn’t make your relationship with them stronger (which is what we try unconsciously to do), it just means that you have their energy in your life that is causing the havoc.
3. Support them instead of trying to fix them
Each of us has to experience different lessons to learn and grow at various levels.
If you fix someone’s problem, then you deprive them of their lesson.
Which only means that they’ll have to create the same problematic situation so they can finally learn what they’re expected to learn. You can choose to support them instead by encouraging them or telling them where they can find information or help they need.
You can help them to see why they’re in such a situation but don’t try to solve it instead of them. Of course, another situation is when they specifically ask you to help them. Then you have permission to intervene in their life.
4. Help them to regain faith in themselves
It’s of much greater service if you tell them that they have their own guidance system and that they can trust it. They may lack the confidence about being able to help themselves and if you’d treat them like a small kid and taking off their burdens how would they learn their value?
I know that it’s sometimes difficult, but the true loving response isn’t to go and save them but lovingly remind them of their own strengths.